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She also eventually began working. However during this time, she also began serious verbal abuse toward me, cursing at me, right in my face, especially when we would be driving somewhere. This really took a toll on me more and more over time. All during this time she expected me to help her financially and drop everything to do things for her. She also had another psych hospitalization shortly after entering the community.

But since then has been taking her meds. As a result of the drug use, she got a drug-related disease and that was a long ordeal along with many other ordeals. Like many people in the sober living community, she doesn't want to get in the "real world" of being fully responsible for herself. Worst of all is - at times - a lack of empathy and a level of thinking that is like a year-old and totally out of touch with respect and caring for others.

She's lost a lot of friendships. Financially, this was month after month of bills - both she and my ex, her father, berate me for ever mentioning that it is hard for me to afford this, meanwhile they make no effort to pitch in for these expenses. Since this time I have realized more and more what an epidemic it is of adult "children" abusing parents and expecting to be supported indefinitely. And it almost always is connected to substance abuse. When there is a mental health diagnosis, that makes it harder for the parent to finally withdraw from her life something I'm planning to do.

However the strain has become to the point now, where I need to take strong action to take care of myself. I read about a lot of parents who are in anguish over the way they get treated, but I wonder if they will get to the point where they actually want to literally remove themselves from the situation. That's what I'm going to do. I am making plans to be where I cannot be contacted or get involved in these problems from day to day, and it may come to the point where I make it where I can't even be reached by them.

I thought about this earlier and knew I needed to make the move when I could. Then I softened after she left the community and allowed her to live with me. Things went well for a month, but then there was another incident of her losing it and cursing at me. I lost my temper as well.

Things can get bad so quickly and this is like going from zero to crisis in seconds. I am at the age where this is not something I can handle. I am not willing to live like this. The constant drama and blaming never ends. She is fixated on me as the cause of her problems which is ironic because of how close we were during her entire childhood, until she was around We never stopped being close, but she then became very demanding in some ways - but still worked at jobs and was an honor student.

I don't think she has the same brain she had before drugs were in the picture. She used to excel at some really difficult subjects that most people don't understand. I don't think she could do something like that now. She is no longer interested in anything. And it all started with marijuana use that got heavier and heavier. The problem is that you cannot change how your adult child sees things. Since this recent problem, she is staying with her father. As much as I wish we could have continued things going well, I think that there's no doubt that the problem will happen again.

At the minimum, if I remain in town, I will have to limit all conversations with her.

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What happens is that things get better and they stay better for a long time, and I get all hopeful and trusting and then think that things are okay or I almost think that. Then inevitably a major abuse episode of her screaming at me, usually in the car, happens. When I try to minimize conversation to avoid problems, she keeps trying to engage me in conversation claiming that I don't care about her feelings, but then it's always the same thing - that she blames me somehow for everything.

And again, I'm not perfect but we were close and she excelled and also had loads of fun all through her growing up years. All of this is a major time vampire just thinking about it and dealing with it and looking things up, year after year. My number-one concern is that this is the time that she has to be responsible for herself. I hear about people in their 30s, 40s, 50s, still doing these things and using and tormenting their parents. I will do just about anything to not be in this situation. Of course I feel tremendous sympathy for her when it comes to her mental health problems most likely triggered by drugs.

But she has her meds and her doctor so as long as she stays on them, she can do really well. I have really lost hope that things can improve. And I truly believe that her only hope of improvement is for me to put a stop to accepting abuse and for her to be uncomfortable enough with real-life consequences to finally do what our generation would do when they wanted a car and a place of their own to live My ex-husband thrives on all this frequently because he is convinced that the reason for all her problems is that I "spoiled" her when she was growing up.

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But she was always a very well behaved child. Mental health problems are hereditary in my family anyway. Being blamed by him really adds to my stress. There's no convincing him. I've had to decide once again to stop talking to him as well. I hope that I can follow through on this. I realize it will be hard to be away from this, and a parent gets used to the constant crisis and drama - but it's nice to be able to enjoy the things we enjoy - instead of letting our whole life and interests get sucked into someone else's.

That's just an excuse not to live our own lives - and it does not help these foul-mouthed, abusive, infantile young adults. I'm not criticizing any parents who deal with this misery. I hope they will get to the point where they say, enough is enough. Because these things don't get better when these bad situations are allowed to continue. The fact is, no one understands these situations except the people who have lived through them. I would never have believed in a million years that this could happen to my daughter.

My now 32 year old daughter is very similar. Yes, she has mental health issues and I feel this is borderline personality issues. She also has depression. She had been a difficult child and things worsened around age 16 when she discovered alcohol to self medicate. This progressed to Vicodin and Xanax. She now is a heroin addict. She has been in multiple rehab institutes around the country. Very intelligent like your daughter.

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She has been able to stay sober for maybe 12 months at most. She recently dropped out of grad school and now is actively using heroin. I am sure she is drinking vodka as well. She lived in a house that my ex wife rented for her 2 years ago. Was supposed to help with rent but that stopped long ago. Refused to even get just a part time job to help with rent. Well, we are at a breaking point. Her mother my ex and I luckily get along and I with the help of a therapists have stopped all financial support of any kind. Her house lease is up in 30 days.

She knows that her mother will no longer pay her rent. We have given her no other money for 6 months or more so not sure how she pays for gas, food and utilities. She was verbally abusive to me for the past 6 months blaming me for everything that is wrong in her life sad because in past we were very close. The therapist said this is her being an addict as well as the mental health issues. It has been 15 years of endless difficulties. This is the first time we have fully pulled back with no more financial support enabling. We are both very nervous because we know too many people who have died from heroin I go to al-anon.

It is tragic but we see no other alternative at this point. She actually was homeless years ago. She has no significant money or job right now so not sure where she will end up. She does have a car. It is very difficult waiting to see if she will finally hit rock bottom and cry out for help.

She does have health insurance that I am willing to pay for, only to help her if she decides she wants to try turn her life around. Unfortunately at this point she only wants to do her drugs. I feel your pain. Also, know that you are a good mother and do not listen to negative comments from your ex.

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I appreciate your proving a follow up to the story. I have to be a good mom to my daughter but sometimes I just want to run away. Thank for sharing the book title. Best of luck to you and your daughter. My story sounds much the same as yours only my daughter is She met boyfriend at 15 and things have gone straight downhill since. She became pregnant at age She, baby, and minor daddy resided under my roof, fully provided for by me a single mother of two , for the first three years of grandson's life. I became extremely bonded to this baby.

They run to other grandma every time they have a problem with me. Other grandma is loving and all but in all these years she's not provided one cent in "monetary" support. It's such a long story of the back and forth drama they've put my grandson through but basically they've moved 6 or so times since. Last Spring, DHS became involved, because the father called as if he didn't need reporting himself, and you bet your butt I did report him after. The father and my daughter "broke up" once again and this was his way of trying to control her.

My daughter came back to live with me. DHS came and met with me. Missy, what do you plan to do if your daughter returns and relapses? Then she told me "you will go down to juvenile court and file for custody. My daughter returned from rehab, met up with boy, took baby, Daddy got a DUI, driving on suspended license, no insurance, and running from scene of accident with baby in car. He went to jail. He's been to jail for domestic violence against my daughter.

Mom and baby came home. I went, with her, to juvenile court the next morning and filed for custody wanting consistency and a stable home for baby. This lasted a week and daughter got mad at me, took off with baby, ran to baby Daddy's mom, and signed custody over to her. All of this was done sneakily, behind my back, as I was trying to include other grandma on every step I took. She thinks she has some special bond with my daughter that I don't and I'm just crazy. She insinuates I don't care. I, at least, am in Nar-Anon, Al-Anon, etc. The other grandma is "nice enough" but it's Christmas now and she can't fork out a dime for gifts but rather has the nerve to call my ex husband to provide for Santa at her house.

She found out last night that my ex is bringing that Santa stuff to my house Santa has come there since birth and he isn't stopping now and grandson knows this. Now she and daughter are blowing up our phones talking about how selfish we are because we aren't letting grandson "wake up and find this particular gift at her house". They say he'll be devastated because other grandma was able to buy one for her daughter but not my grandson.

I say, if you wanted to sneak in and grab all the responsibility, Santa would be part of it. I had already told her, point blank, a month ago, that I worked up until Xmas Eve. Then on Sunday when it was time to take him back, she texted and said "are you bringing him home today or did you figure something out for his daycare next week". I know I'm crazy, but am I crazy? What advice do you have? Have been to addiction services and they basically seemed to say not much can be done.

Because we the grandparents watch out for the kids the child services are not interested on becoming involved. My mentally ill son who refused treatment after being on and off for 3 yrs is now homeless. I kicked him out 10 months ago after his aggression towards me and my daughters got so bad we were sleeping and living behind locked doors fearful for our lives. Worse for my life. My other kids wouldn't have a mom and would still be fearful of their brother. For 10 months I've enabled him. I've met him at parks, given him money, paid friends rent to find out they just gave him the money and he never stayed there.

I did this out of guilt for putting him out. So I could sleep at night thinking he was ok. I finally realized how I was enabling him and that he could live I the park for the next 20 years if I continued. During this time he continued to vandalize my house and threaten his sisters every time he saw them. They were u aware that I was meeting him and giving him money. Three weeks ago it all clicked for me after intensive therapy. I have not given him money in three weeks. I told him I was going out of town. I do still pay for his phone but after giving him so many phone cases that just disappeared the next week I stopped and now I'm just waiting for him to break his phone and then I'll stop paying for it.

My life is a mess. I am so sad for him and I really have to work on trying not to obsess where he is and what he is doing. I have to remember my other daughters and our safety. My oldest son was diagnosed with bi-polar disorder when he was nine, 15 years ago. At 14, despite my constant striving to keep him off drugs, my son started using. He is 24 now. Life at home with him was nightmarish as he had daily temper tantrums and everything he wanted or needed was an emergency.

His step-dad and he did not get along and his younger siblings were under constant stress due to his problems. He started smoking meth a few years ago, and this has made his symptoms much worse. He struggles with hygiene, homelessness, and paranoia. When he isn't using he has attempts working but gets fired from every job he manages to get. Not for not showing up, but for personality conflicts with others. What makes it worse is that he has two children. His first child was born while he and his wife lived with us.

Sadly, they both could not give up drugs for their child. They also fought and argued, and I learned that my son was abusing his wife mentally and physically. DHS became involved, and they gave me guardianship of my granddaughter. What this means is that I am now legally responsible for her care until they meet certain guidelines, but they have not met those guidelines and now my grandchild is almost 2.

In the meantime they have received state support for food and housing. They also had their second child. I have helped secure the help they have received, paid late fees to keep them in their apartment and diligently taken care of their daughter, hoping and expecting them to finally get it together. Then they started smoking meth again. She filed a VPO against him and now he is on the streets. In the last two weeks I have been in contact with him more than usual.

He is suffering from multiple delusions that mostly have to do with the government. The people whose houses he stays at are all also drug users. Today he knocked on my door unexpectedly and I opened it, letting him in. He was suffering from psychosis, dirty, and gaunt. I begged him to go to a treatment center with me and tried to take him. We got in the car and I drove in the direction of a local emergency treatment center, leaving all of my other children at home. As we got closer he got more and more distressed and eventually enraged at me, saying that all he wanted was a drink of water and to hold his daughter and that there was nothing wrong with him.

Minutes before that he was telling me that our phones were tapped, that electric pulses were coming from the electric meters and making his heart beat rapidly and that God was taking care of him. When my son is not smoking meth and suffering from psychosis he is a wonderful musician, kind and loving to all. But the dark side of him is too much to bear. I did not know how to manage his illness.

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I allowed people to be a part of our life who were also sick, namely my mother who died of an overdose a few years ago. And other family members who were also sick and using. You can see the disappointment in his face when I look at him with critical eyes as he tries to smooth out his clothes and look presentable.

He is excessively polite which makes it all the more confusing. The only advice I have to those with children who are struggling with addiction, drug use or untreated mental illness is to love them the best you can.

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I get so frustrated with my son, and I tell him how angry I am at him and how disappointed I am in his choices and refusal to get help, but I am kidding myself if I think that my words will ever cause him to change his ways. Physicians are practicing from 20 years ago and are as responsible for the state of our addicted children as much as anyone else. Have you ever studied DNA mutations and how they affect the neurotransmitters in the brain or affect prescribed medications efficacy?

If you had then you would realize that "enabling" can have very little to do with your loved one continuing with addiction. Have you studied any current brain chemistry publications? Do you know how hormone fluctuations contribute to addiction? Do you realize that there are many other tools that combined could make a greater contribution to getting our loved ones better help for addiction by allowing individual treatment vs AA meetings and talk therapy. Isn;t it obvious by now that we need to take a scientific approach to addiction and stop limiting treatment to excessive hours of therapy,AA meetings and "enabling" discussions?

Would that be your recommendation for the diabetic who needs insulin? Would you tell them that insulin is just a crutch and they need to work more on their diet and exercise just as our loved ones r being denied medications that replace what's missing in their brain? Do you know how spect imaging can be used with DNA information to get a better handle on the individual person's medication needs to help minimize drug seeking?

It's simply blockading and power tripping when physicians say there just isn't enough proof that these modalities are effective. That is simply a lie. There is so much information that is available but very few professionals using it. There will be a new grassroots movement that will work on getting most of these pathetic treatment facilities and physicians closed down if they don't start doing the work and using science instead of redundant meetings and therapy to treat our loved ones.

The etiology of addiction can be different for each person yet the treatment is all the same. Marketing is deceitful and ineffective. This is particularly the case for the pregnant drug user, and comprehensive models of care can improve maternal and neonatal outcomes. There should be a smooth transition of services between pregnancy, delivery, and beyond. Risk assessment in families of drug users is complex, and attempts to compile risk inventories have tended to reflect the treatment biases of the compilers. Important among these are the need to be sure that the family has sufficient funds to provide adequately for the child's physical needs, and that the child is not being left alone while the parent is out procuring drugs.

When there is concern that neglect or abuse may be occurring or may be a serious possibility, the health professional should take immediate appropriate action according to the local child protection guidelines. When parents request harm minimisation treatment for a long standing heroin problem, general practitioners may decide that, in line with recommendations in the Department of Health clinical guidelines, they will start some opiate addicted parents on a maintenance prescription themselves.

For many addicted parents, this evidence based intervention may be a lifeline, 4 restoring financial and emotional stability and freeing them up to undertake parenting rather than being constantly involved in drug seeking activities. The lack of access for addicted parents to maintenance prescribing services is likely to be a major factor in the poor environment experienced by some children.

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Whatever is felt to be the appropriate intervention, good local shared care protocols and structured interagency working are the key to successful work with this group, as set out in the clinical guidelines. In all situations it is essential to offer the following support to parents and children. Advice for the parent s on where to access drug treatment services and appropriate referral where necessary. Advice on testing and vaccination for blood borne viral infections and referral for parent and child where necessary. Advice about injecting and safer sex in order to protect parent and child from contracting transmissible infections.

General advice on parenting as the parent may have only very poor role models and few support networks. Advice on nutrition for parent and child, and consideration of parental drug problems as a possible contributing factor when children fail to thrive. Advice on the safe storage of drugs away from children, especially methadone mixture, which is attractive in appearance and has been responsible for a number of child deaths Enquiries to ensure that the child has not missed the routine childhood health checks and vaccinations and developmental surveillance.

Liaison with other professionals who may be involved with the family so that information may be shared in cases of concern. When children are in the care of the local authority or adopted, guidance should be offered about testing for blood borne viral infections. This may raise questions about consent and who has parental responsibility to give consent. There are also important confidentiality matters.

Enquiries to ascertain whether a further pregnancy is planned, and contraceptive advice where appropriate. This is especially important at the inception of a methadone maintenance programme. Where a pregnancy is planned or is a possibility, preconception counselling focusing on nutrition and the need to reduce or stop injecting and to keep all illicit drug use to a minimum; referral to drugs services at this stage if appropriate.

Early counselling and testing for blood borne virus Hep B,C, HIV status in pregnant woman and neonate and appropriate referral. Area child protection committees ACPCs play a key role in ensuring that appropriate procedures, arrangements, and training are in place to ensure that children are properly assessed when substance misuse by parents is a possibility.

This should encompass both children in potential danger and those who have broader needs. ACPCs also need to link with drug and alcohol misuse services and adult mental health services, as well as contributing to plans of local authority children's services, to provide coordinated action for children affected by substance misuse. Regional drug action teams DATs , which have representation from health, social, police, probation, and education services, are responsible for guiding local strategy depending on local needs and statistics, but tend to be adult focused, concentrating on key problems around crime and treatment.

Many drug misusing parents are already consumed with guilt about the effect their drug use may be having on their child, and it is important to maintain a non-judgmental approach while being firm and precise about the limits of adequate childcare. Positive reinforcement from professionals for good child rearing practices and development of confidence in the parents' own abilities can feed back into a more positive self image for parents, which can help them to take greater control over other aspects of their lives.

This cannot take place, however, outside a framework where high quality shared care and interagency working is offered to all drug users. You will be able to get a quick price and instant permission to reuse the content in many different ways. Skip to main content. We use cookies to improve our service and to tailor our content and advertising to you. More info You can manage your cookie settings via your browser at any time. To learn more about how we use cookies, please see our cookies policy. Log in via OpenAthens. Log in using your username and password For personal accounts OR managers of institutional accounts.

Forgot your log in details? There is no such thing as a perfect parent. Even the best parents make mistakes and all of us can somehow, someway do a better job. All you can do is move forward and find solutions for right now. As an adult , your child has all the power to make his or her own decision — and also no right to blame their parents for the decisions they make and continue to make.

Is your child choosing drugs over detox? An approach that is more practical than emotional can be a difference-maker. Be prepared to present a few real options — not just idle threats or emotional pleas. Your child and the addiction are two separate entities: Your son is not heroin addiction and heroin addiction is not your son. You are allowed to differentiate between loving your child and hating the disease of addiction.

Remember that loving your son or daughter does not include enabling; it means keeping them accountable for their behavior. For some parents, this may be the most difficult advice of all. From the moment you conceive a child, your life changes forever — and that new role has no end point, regardless of the age of your son or daughter.

However, as your child becomes an adult, your responsibilities and roles evolve and lessen.

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